When I first floated the idea of an open relationship to the man who is now my husband, I had no idea what to call it. My proposal—to go outside our relationship without actually giving up on what we had—appealed to him. With both of us on board, we soon realized that—lol—we actually had no idea what we were doing. We knew we wanted to experiment sexually with others, but no one had ever admitted to me that they were non-monogamous a term I only learned many years later , so we had no choice but to stumble ahead without any labels or mentorship. I just want you to have as much earth-shattering sex as your schedule allows, okay?
I Became a Swinger During a 10th-Anniversary Cruise with My Husband
Our first swinging experience | An exploring couple
For this installment of our weekly interview series, Love, Actually , about the reality of women's sex lives, we spoke with Vera a pseudonym , a married woman who unexpectedly got into swinging during a tenth-anniversary cruise. Last spring my husband and I were looking for an adults-only vacation to celebrate our tenth anniversary. I came across a "clothing optional lifestyle takeover cruise. We assumed "lifestyle" meant BDSM. It was only after we'd booked the trip that we realized it meant swingers. We figured we could still go, even though we didn't plan to participate. Leading up to the cruise, though, we got to know some of the other couples online and began to change our minds.
My First “Swinging” Experience
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He spent a great deal of time trying to reassure me that not only would it be a huge turn on for him, but that making my fantasy come true was something he wanted to do for me! He attempted to make arrangements, but I struggled with trusting the situation. What about my own perception of being involved in something so wild and crazy! I mean, I was raised in a conservative, Christian household…would I even be able to follow through? What if I went up in a flame or turned into a pillar of salt?